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The Fragrance Of Our Words

It matters what we say…

There are power in words. According to the bible we have the power of life or death in our tongue. With such vast capabilities steered by a small tool, one would think it’s easy to control. Unfortunately that’s not the case. If we don’t understand the value and weight of our words we’ll be succumbed to the casualties of them.

Envision you had the chance to walk around every day holding a lighter. With that lighter you had the opportunity to either light a candle or burn something down. To be an arsonist or a lamplighter, which one would you choose? I’m sure most would pick the latter, but what does our speech describe us to be? Do our words bring life or death? Hope or discouragement? Are you really a lamplighter, or do your words prove you to be otherwise?

The book of James discussed the weight of our words in chapter 3. It’s a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. It’s a world of evil among the parts of the body. They can corrupt the whole body and it sets the whole course of one’s life on fire. The things that I say has that effect? Yes, they do.

Death and life are in the power of the tongue, And those who love it will eat its fruit. -Proverbs 18:21

It matters what we say to others

I believe the words we speak to and on people are equally important. If our words create life and death then that means it can bless and curse. Therefore it is power in affirmation and power in put downs.

I’ve seen women shape their mindset based off a comment about their bodies. I’ve seen how words, when taken to heart, have led to eating disorders, low self-esteem, and discouragement because of the wounds from things said by loved ones. We don’t have to physically abuse someone to cause harm, because we can castrate them with our words. Every put down, every sharp word is like a blow to the spirit.

Whether we notice or not our words have power. What you say to your children matters. What you call your spouse when you’re mad, matters. How you speak of yourself matters because it can add or take away from your very life and those around you. I’ve definitely had to struggle with the last point, especially when encouragement was needed the most. But I’ve had to learn that self-criticism is partnering with the enemy. He’s the accuser, and I don’t want any part of that.

With that being said, I urge you to examine your language. Be cautious of the things you say and fight to pursue truth and love through this small but mighty tool that is our mouth. Continue to ask yourself, what do my words say about me? If they were a fragrance, what would they leave behind when I’m no longer around?

Until next time,


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